Last January I wrote this post with some very lofty goals for 2018. Apparently I thought having twins was going to mean I would have all the time to do all the things. Oh how naive I was!
I mean, I did ok with my goals, but didn’t even come close to completing half of them. Instead of being down on myself, I took a good look at my goals and realized I had bitten off much more than I could chew and had severely underestimated what I would be able to complete have three children under the age of two.
BUT…ONWARD AND UPWARD!
My goals up until now have usually centered around the eight pillars of wellness, but having 1-2 goals for each pillar ends up being A LOT of goals that are hard to keep track of and complete. This year, I’m jumping on the word of the year bandwagon and after a lot of thought, I’ve centered on two words that I feel embrace all my goals for the coming year.
It’s no shock that I’m not the most disciplined person in the world. I’ve shared on social media and on the blog how much I love to make schedules and lists, but rarely see them to fruition. Obviously that needs to change if I’m going to complete an Ironman 70.3 – that’s not really something you can just show up to without training. In addition, my spiritual life and severely lacked discipline over the past few years and I know that needs to change as well.
My goals for being disciplined include:
- getting up early at least 4 days a week to read my Bible and journal before the rest of the house wakes up
- following my training schedule for my Ironman 70.3
- publishing blog posts in a timely manner (at least 2x per week)
- following through with tasks when I commit to them and not procrastinating
Disciplined was my original word, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it did a great job of encompassing my hobbies/free time, but didn’t reflect my goals for what I wanted the relational side of my family to look like. Saying I wanted to be disciplined in my interactions with my husband, children, and friends seemed too rigid. So…I started looking for another word.
Present seems to check all the boxes when it comes to relationships for me. I want to say “yes” more than I say “no” to my children and my husband. I want to put down my phone when I’m having a conversation with a friend or playing with the kids. I want to be physically, emotionally and mentally present in all the relationships in my life, even interactions with the cashier at the grocery store. Nothing on my phone or my “to-do” list is more important than the people in front of me.
This also relates to the disciplined part. I want to be fully present in whatever task I am completing. Multi-tasking is fine for some things (like doing dishes and making dinner), but in other aspects I want to focus on being fully present in the task at hand. That means getting up early to read my Bible and journal so I’m not distracted by hungry babies. It means giving my all in my workouts instead of only giving 75% while I aimlessly scroll through social media. It means leaving the house to write blog content and then coming back and being 100% present for my family (instead of doing both at the same time without doing anything well).
My goals for being present include:
- using my phone for calls/texts instead of for social media/games/etc (leaving it in my purse as much as possible, turning it off from 8pm-7am every day)
- scheduling time each week to work on my blog away from my family
I’m really excited about these two words and hope to put them up in a place that I will see them on a regular basis to help remind me about the things I want to accomplish this year!
Do you have a word (or two) for 2019? What are your goals for this upcoming year?